RICHNESS OF THOUGHTS..

Lets begin with a small discussion toady.. There was a girl.. What's her name was is not important.. What's important is how she saw the world.. for her world was not a beautiful or an ideal place to live in but certainly it was an interesting place worth experiencing.. she thought of it in her unique way.. she loved to live in it.. no doubt she has pain, at times she felt hurt, at times she was disappointed with the way life was treating her.. but all these fact never broke her confidence in live being worth living.. she has her fundamentals and way of look towards life.. she believed that every human has capabilities to make this world a better place to live in.. what is needed are sincere efforts and to think above himself.. a fundamental equation says that what you cannot consider right or acceptable for yourself, you have no right to implement same to others.. if you need respect for yourself, you have to first give that to everyone.. in this balanced world, you cannot shift balance in your benefit at the cost of others.. and if you are blessed with some talents, you have to be thankful and share your talents with other so that other too can enjoy the benefits.. it might reflect socialist values but being purely capitalist cannot make anyone feel contented.. balance is a fundamental requirement.. but all her views got shattered when she saw how people were inhumane and irresponsible for some very basic values.. she used to thought that these are some basic ideas that are always there in the heart of people but when she saw the stupid responses and  selfish behavior of them she felt heart-broken.. her simple question was ," when she can feel the trauma and sense seriousness of the situation, why can't others? she is also a normal human being with average understanding, then why cant others??" and when i listened to her thoughts, the same questions arises in my mind. i know everyone has his build her thoughts in a different and peculiar way but some basic situation has same results.. they must not be denied.. and i feel ashamed when people act in the very opposite way in those basic situation.. especially being a woman.. i feel like God has given us very good understanding,intuitive and reasoning power.. What we can make of a situation, no one else can.. We can be the best administrators if we can put our 100% effort.. but at the same time we can the do the very opposite if we react in a stupid way and act in spontaneity and without giving any second thoughts.. we are made to rule but in a sensible way.. the world belongs to us and we must make it worth appreciating.. We must keep our shoulders high to go on and on but in a subtle manner.. our little effort in evry sector can collectively lead to great positive change.. I wanna make myself proud and i will, will you?? 

SELF-CHOICES V/S RESPONSIBLE DECISIONS..

It is rather very difficult to take decision at any point of time in your life.. Whats's right?? What's wished?? What's required?? What is the need of the hour?? A lot and lot goes inside out in mind and heart while thinking bout situations which are rather complicated.. Many a times, I think, that things are not as complicated as we take them.. they can be dealt with in a more simplistic way or I should say in a easier way at-least if little of emotions and practicality is added in those.. i wont say that whenever any complicity occur in any relation, the fault is either on-sided or two-sided.. i disagree with the proverb " you cannot clap without using two hand".. In relations or in any other situation, it can happen.. because some are the situations which are not governed by laws of nature or laws of requirement.. they are rather governed by laws of egoism or attitude or rigidness.. at that time there is a clap which has no sound associated with it but a boiled lava coming up slowly inside the volcano which cannot be seen from outside until it's exploded.. but is there any way employing which can this explosion be avoided or at-least kept at reasonable distance from important sites.. I would answer this in affirmation.. but this affirmative answer needs a tough stand and strong affiliation in its backdrop.. being good doesn't mean being silent.. its nowhere in the scene.. Goodness comes with lots of responsibilities.. In the present society, its very difficult to decide between right and wrong except in any hard core situation.. things are more relative and less absolute.. being responsible means to decide a balanced way out in every circumstances.. responsibility demands selflessness.. and its too difficult to be so.. compromises are much difficult to be made than promises.. at the starting, we can make a lot of promises but as time goes on, those promises demands compromises from us which means to set back self made choices.. and believe me that's a very tough task to deal with.. my personal criteria to deal with any situation is always based on the assumption of what i would have liked if i would have been in another person's place.. i know it never works always but this atleast it has an assurance with it of low pain intensities to others.. being stubborn is nice but being flexible is much better.. till it never want compromises on your basic principles.. I know we all have our right to enjoy this life given to us and have freedom of choices and decision but with rights comes the responsibility.. we should do what we want while taking care of others.. compromising on small things is not a bad deal for achieving great targets.. make yourself so lovable and respectable that people tends to give you what you want.. for our life, we must fight and work hard to make it worth living and remembering..

THEY SAID, I ASKED...

She said: i wanna have a sense of freedom and self-sufficiency..

they said: u are made to remain bounded and dependent by the supreme law..

She said: the world belongs to me and i belong to it.. 

they said: It never was and never will..

She said: look, the stars!! they are made for me also.. I can fly high and reach them.

they said: u are allowed to just see them and not to reach them..

She said: oh so humble one!! answer my last question..are u delivering the supreme law or u are just like others who are afraid to come below or at least equal to any other community than yours and using law as shield??

they said: lets leave.. we said what was told to us.. we are done..

they said, they left..

people never thought of the effects the words they say have on others.. they say and goes away.. and people need to suffer because of them.. and that suffering goes on a long way.. the right to live suffers the most.. the right to think intimate the most.. and above all our existence get into trouble the most... its time to get answer of all the questions we have in our mind, all the boundaries drown around us need to be justified, their right to question us in every circumstance need to be scrutinized.. we made us what we are and we dont need to give any explanation to any one who are not even anywhere related to us.. we did the action and let us be bearer of action and not the bearer to restraints to avoid the course of ideas and action.. we could be wrong but that doesn't make us less recognized or for biddable to implemenation.. 

SOLITUDE: DEFINING ITSELF

The Story started with Adam and Eve as it is said... see the world population today.. we have come along along way.. in this journey we interacted, with nature, with people who were like us, with animals and lot more.. I guess its naturally induced formula of getting engaged with those who are around us.. But do this always necessary?? Do this always required or permissible? we have a lot of feelings associated with us... love, hatred, jealousy, respect, being ignorant, being cautious and a lot more.. sometimes these may overcome us because of the genuineness of the reason behind them.. I'm not saying that those reasons are always right.. Theory of relativity rules everywhere.. All the things (including feeling and other emotions felt) make their way to right or wrong depending upon the perspective in which they are seen.. but ultimately what happens is that they can rule over our mind and heart sometimes.. that is actually the time for introspection.. leaving ourselves out of this world is what can help in such situations.. Solitude can define us.. when we are away from those reasons which spark those feeling in us and also from rest of the world, we actually can have time for us.. We can actually make way for our thoughts and future roads.. no one can care for us better than us.. 

mere shaam-o-sehar mai tera saayaan bahut hai..

dil ki aarzoon mai khud ko tera paaya bahut hai..

dil-e-nadaan pyar mai magroor-e masroof hai..

ki khud ko haqiqat se mehroom arkhwaya bahut hai..

ae bekhabar massom sun jara (di-e-nadaan)..

wo jod chuka hai khud ko kisi aur hi ki kashti se..

ki tere kinaro ka uske sahilo se faasla bahut hai..

keh uss maazzi se jo kheeche hai teri kashtiyoon ko..

le jae unhe meri leharo ke daayro se kahi door..

teri doori mujhe dard degi har hadd tak ..

par teri nazdikiyoon ne bhi mujhe tadpaaya bahut hai..

understanding loneliness... Distributing pain over a span of time.. laws of physics always helps a lot.. its better to be awya from all sometimes.. 

Practicality or Emotionalism??

Who is a good leader?? One who can understand the practicality of the situation and adapt accordingly or the other who can see emotional side of the situation, listen to his heart  and give results accordingly?? Being an reader, I read about lot of different articles about ideas that successfully laid the path for rule, hundreds of past leaders who dominated the world (not only individuals but collective people or a whole nation too), thousands of common who got affected and reacted differently but i was never able to find balance.. between need of the time and need of the people as a whole... Any particular situation bring forth different requirements for different people and communities.. the reaction which can be beneficial for a group of people can be disastrous to some other.. History is full of these kind of examples.. When because of few individuals (it starts with few and expands its base by including others of same nature in it), a large has suffered.. and they suffered not because they didn't have any choice, the suffered because they were made to believe that this is what their fate decided for them.. Good or Bad, justified or unjustified, essential or burden; no matter what they think of it, they have to bear it because they lack power to overcome it.. I always understood that the individuals who controlled the fate of thousands were those who had economical and political high-ends, but i can never understood why the other thousand let them do this to them.. Why people let rule others over them when they knew what is happening is against the rule of nature of equal rights.. yes nature has given every one different standard of tasks and abilities, thoughts and understanding but it never meant that any particular individual is above or below some other.. Each work, each thought, each minute has its importance in this world and thus no one can deny any other his right to live with same dignity and comfort with which he is living.. yes when number of people living together increases, its necessary to have some kind of discipline but with a balance.. i have read about time when selfishness was at its verge, i have read about that time too when self-needs and leisure meant nothing for few individuals.. those who exploited others with the reason of practical needs, left emotions completely on sides.. I know, being completely emotional, leads to foolishness but we must remember, being completely practical leads to individualism... both are negative.. the sign positive '+' itself includes in itself two orthogonal ideologies.. only combination of both can complete it.. Yes it is very difficult maintain that balance (you cannot keep everyone satisfied) but yes a majority can be. and that majority must include the most needed one at the first step.. selfishness must be in our mind when we keep ourselves on the places of the people for whom we are deciding (only then can we understand what they expect from us) and being unbiased is what is expected from us while formulating all the understandings.. I guess that could help in maintaining a reasonable balance... 

EMANCIPATION IN TRUE SENSE

Freedom... Emancipation.. Big words.. Big meaning.. Recently read about certain revolutions which happened in past for one or the other kind of freedoms.. It was really shocking to find out that people, the so called intellectual people, never considered women's freedom a big topic to discuss even in their early years...  It was included in their after a big delay.. And i guess the process of its implementation is still going on.. But my question is what do we mean by it.. What is freedom in true sense for us?? and a still bigger question... Has it reached a bigger portion of our society?? Do freedom or women emancipation just means to educate the girls till their graduation and feel relieved of responsibilities.. no doubt in the past years we have seen tremendous changes in the situation of ours in the society.. but is this what we needed?? sometimes it feels like having an unbalanced form of freedom.. they had put us on that kind of swing which keep on or forced to go on one side which demands more dominance over us and we keep on putting our complete strength to bring it back on our side.. Freedom is not just about free movement or to have a job.. In my words, it is about having our own ability to think on any matter liberally, after being unbiased, having our decision making power and choice to implement those decisions without hesitation, be those be the matters of our life or in any other prospective.. I guess there is still a big section in our society which thinks that we are not good decision makers.. but they forget that we have that amount of patience which they cannot even imagine and thus can think on any subject more patiently and come to a more sustainable result than they can.. and a much bigger deal is that we still depends on them to make any decision, be it concerned to our life solely.. I think we must consider each possible option but must do what we feel to and not to make others feel satisfied in the sense that they decided for us.. like others, our good and bad must be in our hands.. Now rest of the problem lies in the percentage of that portion up to which this amount of freedom have reached.. for some it is still a dream that may or may not come true.. People need to open up their minds.. They must stop thinking themselves as our guardians.. we are strong to enough to play that role for ourselves... and not just the others, we must stop thinking of ourselves as dependent on others.. we need to find strength in us..I know that's easy enough to say but not so easy to implement.. But we need to do that.. may be starting from very small but we have to start.. that's how its gonna work..

I was walking smilingly one day
suddenly, there was a mountain by my way..
i saw here, i saw there..
i was trying to find some help somewhere..
then i saw a man climbing it up with care..
he looked down, he saw me standing motionless in heavy air..
he gave a cunning smile..
he looked with dominant eyes..
as if he was trying to say..
hey u lady there, u cant cross it by any possible way..
his stare made me shiver
my self respect was the point where he hurt
i collected my confidence
i recalled my strength
now i was all ready to make my own way without anyone's help..

DEBATE ON INDIAN CULTURE

Culture.. A word that describes a society.. what do we mean by it?? Is it a word which describes how people interacted with others, what they felt about some social issues, how they laid down some rules and principles for its subjects (no matter if those who were getting affected by those were included in formulation or not), or how right or wrong was decided on?? In my words i would like to define it something like this, " Culture: how society changed and flourished, gave way to new ideas and themes, ready to accept the wrong and swap it with right, let it subjects develop their own way of thinking and reasoning".. Today also, one of hot topics debated upon is our culture and traditions.. Many a people use it to defend their own ideas of conservatism and argue to preserve the rich heritage of culture we had.. but do they really do so?? How could few people without knowing and caring to know the idea of culture for others can burden themselves with such a big responsibility? culture is an collective theme, a mutual concept and it must be treated like that only.. Not just for our culture but for any other, the process of preserving rich culture and traditions is work of all, and it must be done like that only with respect given to all those who get affected by it.. Today is a world of internet which had made world a small place to live in.. we can look, observe and analyse a lot more than what was possible in far past.. obviously we get more easily influenced by others way of life, how they feel about any particular issue and how they differ from us.. Our mind must be open enough to see what is happening around.. we must see carefully and analyse accordingly based on our thoughts and concept.. we must accept anything what we see, but we must not reject also.. a big question that comes forward is how one should decide?? what must be done: acceptation or rejection?? Its not a process of a day or two which develops our way of thinking or reasoning ability.. Its a gradual process.. It comes with experiences, ours and others also.. and we must atleast give everyone that chance of experiences.. only then can a society can flourish.. and its subject will, not only preserve the rich heritage of it but also be proud of it.. I am proud of it..