Sunday, December 13, 2015

They cànt take u to be so simple and straight..

Boys... Sorry if I am generalising here, I beg ur pardon in advance but what I'm gonna write is based on what I have experienced.. The ego of boys is so big in them that they can't even take the slightest blow to that.. They talk of equàl thoughts, being straight forward and independent thoughts and personality but when it come to actually accept all these they take it so personally.. Seems like someone had done a surprise attack on their ego and they retaliate that too in a harsh way.. They don't understand that it hurts.. I was never able to understand there so called thought process.. How they come to an unusual conclusion is beyond my analysing abilities.. Might be I am poor in that.. But I am worse in facing those results.. If it would have possible to eraß ßome ingredients from your personality, I would have gone for the touchyness I start feeling with people when I meet them.. People always say they never let go whom they like, but I also believed in letting them know that they are not supposed to go.. I guess in today's world of materialism this is not what people deserve to know ( in people I am also included).. I guess its better to hide the truth and display the fake character they need us to play.. Guys do change.. If u are accepted for what u are, have courage to accept others for what they are.. Change is rule of life but not required foundation. It must just shape  the design but not decide the course of it... U won't understand ever but it hurts.. 

Thursday, December 3, 2015

marriages are said to made in heaven but tolerated on earth.

I never assumed life to be so more life taking then it is now.. I was a joyous person with easy to go attitude but the type of situation time offered had taken all of my essence for life.. I never assumed for life to be all flowers and no thorns but it has its own basket to give from.. Being a girl in the Indian society never give u much space for thinking for all flower and I never did.. But yes assumed it to be simple.. The kind of situation I am going through now a days let my belief grew more stronger that the institutions created by man are the worst invention of all time.. Be it society, Marriages or anyyhing else.. They were made for the good of so called patriarchal world.. Where man always wanted to be dominating.. Where rules can be moulded açcording to his choice, how he can play safe... Where individual words were not given much space if they come from an ordinary man ohhh sorry ordinary women.. They were supposed to be a listening piece of their order decree.. And whenever attempts were made to break the rules of the game, they were disqualified.. I was never able to find the reason behind our submission.. We were also made to fly and we were stopped every time.. And the so called institution "Marriage" which was in the name of safety of our rights was made most useful and usable place to exploit us... To tolerate was made its main key to keep going but it was assumed to be kept by us.. The way marriages take place here is something very weird to my understanding.. A stranger suddenly becomes the master of your life.. We are bought up with the words that do what he say.. Are we made for so?? I know we are not always right.. I know relationship sustain with understanding and compromises but from both the sides... Bad understanding results in worst marriage and it has impact on not only two persons but on two families.. I know God has made us much clever and brainy than others.. But he made us emotional too.. We can solve any problem if we wish for it..  And we can wordsen any matter if we decide for it..  I, on this platform, just want to share that happiness is nevr readymade it is always earned with hard efforts for love and feelings.. Don't put its stake in danger with few unreasonable choice because of so called society pressure.. If we have happiness we will share it.. But we must aim for it with reason and choices .